October 22, 2018

DAY TWENTY TWO of 31 Days of Becoming Queen...

Forgiveness is VITAL, my friends!


But... but...!?

I know... honestly... I do! I get it! 

This is one of the hardest things we are ever asked to do!  
But here's the deal: We actually aren't asked to do this... we are clearly told, right?

As in, "if you withhold forgiveness from others, your Father withholds forgiveness from you.” (Matt 6:15) and Jesus' answer, "Not seven times, but seventy times seven." to Peters' question about forgiving seven times. (--Sidenote: you just know chances are good that he had already forgiven someone 'seven times' and he wanted to just cut them out!)

Forgiveness is a big deal... 
  It's a bigger deal for 'us' 
    than it is for 'them'
      --we've learned this, right?
Please say yes.  

Please say that we have all learned that unforgiveness keeps US in bondage, not 'them'! 

Forgiving 'them' frees us!

Listen, we are a culture full of rights, and forgiveness can feel so unjust... so unfair.  Because a lot of the time, we have been hurt... we have been wronged... we have been short-changed or mistreated or abused... we have.  

But here's the thing: Forgiveness doesn't negate that.

We're not saying forgive and forget... 
We're not saying forgive over and over
without consequence or expectation of change.

Honestly, I don't think this is what Jesus is asking from us.

I think He is well aware of how closely Forgiveness and Freedom are connected and He came to set us free!

Forgiveness is a decision... it's a choice... it's not a feeling. 

We like it when it means HE forgives us... or even when someone else forgives us... but when it's a decision and choice that we must choose, it gets harder!

I ran across a verse the other day as I was praying into this specific post... you guys!? It's so intense... and it made me realize something: 

He means it. 
He wants us to forgive and He entrusted us to share His message of Forgiveness! 

In the Gospel of John, chapter 20 verse 23, it reads:
"I send you to preach the forgiveness of sins—and people’s sins will be forgiven. But if you don’t proclaim the forgiveness of their sins, they will remain guilty." (TPT)
In the New King James Version it reads like this:
"If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained."

The original word for forgiveness in this verse is 'afihmi' in the Greek and it means to 'cry, forgive, forsake, lay aside, leave, let (alone, be, go, have), omit, put (send) away, remit, suffer, yield up.'

Now... in context, Jesus is not -in fact, saying that we have the authority and power to forgive or not forgive the guilt of sins. No, that alone belongs to Jesus. 

But He was saying, after just breathing the Holy Spirit into the apostles, that we have the authority to proclaim the gospel... to spread the Good News... to tell of His Great Love and of His Redemption story! 

Friends,  this plays much truer when we are proclaiming the Gospel without a bunch of unforgiveness spilling out!

Again... sometimes, don't you just wonder what on earth He was thinking? I mean, ...us?  

We mess things up and we miss the mark and we forget that we are forgiven and we didn't deserve it!

What kind of Bride would we be, trying to represent the Bridegroom, but holding on to old wounds, bitterness, and unforgiveness?

Not a spotless one, that is for sure!

 The very word He used in Jn 20:23 means to let go or to suffer.  It's not that He is unaware of the pain we experience before and during an act of forgiveness... it's just that He sees from a different, higher perspective!

So, this is our prayer and the cry of our heart:
"Forgive us the wrongs we have done as we ourselves release forgiveness to those who have wronged us." (Matt 6:12 TPT)

It's not easy... but He's not asking really! 

I mean, verse 14-15 goes on to say, "In prayer, there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part." (The Message) 

I'm praying for you, sweet reader... if you are holding on to any unforgiveness in your heart --justified or not-- I'm asking the Holy Spirit to gently bring it before you and strengthen you to make the choice of forgiveness!

Let Go and Lean In... 
You won't believe how freeing it can be!

And it's for freedom that He set you free!

Tomorrow, --because today's topic is HARD and I know this... tomorrow we will talk about Healing. (Maybe more specifically, we will talk about the importance and practice of Healing Prayer.)

Today is Day Twenty Two of 31 Days of Becoming Queen of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt! If you click over to the official Homepage' for this series, you can go HERE and catch up! You will find links for each days' postings, added daily throughout the month. If you'd prefer to have them delivered right to you, I invite you to enter your email address to the right ('Subscribe Here') and subscribe to the blog. That way, once a week, each post is delivered to your inbox in a single email over the weekend and you'll be sure not to miss a thing!


  1. Oh Karrilee, how I needed this today. I need to forgive in a BIG way someone who has repeatedly hurt someone that I love dearly. Please pray that I can forgive this person. Thank you! Thank you! for writing hard truths.

    1. Oh sweet friend... I am praying right now! Sometimes those offenses we take up for other people are the hardest ones to let go of and forgive! You can do it... it doesn't make what happened right --but it does set you free! Praying the Holy Spirit hovers close and enables and empowers you to forgive!

  2. Forgiveness is hard. But it's one of the best things we can do for one another.

  3. "Friends, this plays much truer when we are proclaiming the Gospel without a bunch of unforgiveness spilling out!"

    I've been a Christian for awhile and this is the first time that these verses have been clear to me. It's all about the talk and the walk aligning, isn't it? And trusting that God knows my pain and will address it in His good timing. Definitely pondering this one.

    1. Oh I love this! Those verses are hard, aren't they? When I ran into John 20:23 I caught my breath because --man, that's a lot of pressure, right? At first I wondered, like I can forgive someone like Jesus? No... but how likely am I to preach that message to someone if I am holding on to unforgiveness for them myself? (Read: NOT likely!) And yes... Jesus is all for our Walk and our Talk lining up! All day, every day! xoxo

  4. YES, YES, YES = "It's not that He is unaware of the pain we experience before and during an act of forgiveness... it's just that He sees from a different, higher perspective!"
    I need this reminder often. Thanks.

    1. I'm tellin' ya! That change in Perspective is SUCH a Game Changer! xoxo


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