October 18, 2018

DAY NINETEEN of 31 Days of Becoming Queen... a Five Minute Friday post.


This is Day Nineteen of the #Write31Days series, 31 Days of Becoming Queen of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt.  It's Friday, so you know the drill! 

This is a Five Minute Friday post, which simply means I set a timer and free write for five minutes flat on the one word prompt of WHO


So, deciding ahead of time to attempt to make these Five Minute Friday word prompts work in with the series is always a bit tricky! It usually works out fine... or at least I can tweak it a bit and make it work in there... but this? 

This time... it is perfect!
Because --Who?  
Isn't that the question?

We are on Day 19 of 31 Days of talking about Becoming Queen of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt and you guys... I don't know about you, but for me:

"Who?" is such a timely question!  

I see the prompt and I get a brilliant idea...

As you read through the posts about Being Kind and Believing the Best and Focusing on the Positive, who comes to mind?  

Who, in your life --either online or especially in 'real life'-- lives this way on a somewhat consistent basis?  Who do you think of when you read about being kind? 

Can I encourage you to send them a little note? As in... right now, or at least over the weekend! Just write out a short text, or email, or notecard --or even (gasp!) pick up the phone! LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU SEE THEM being kind, even when it would be easy and understandable not to behave that way! You see... and it's making a difference!

As you read the posts about Not Jumping to Conclusions or Ascribing Intent... WHO were you thinking about?  Was there someone in particular that you tend to do this with? Someone who pushes all your buttons and tries all your patience? 

Can I encourage you to pray for them... to apologize, if necessary... to, again, send a text or whatever and let them know that you are working on becoming better at giving the benefit of the doubt and as you are reading these posts, you are seeing a need to be better at this.  Just put it out there... chances are they will see that they, too, need to work on it! Maybe you can decide to work on it together... to help each other out along the journey!

As you read about Empathy and Sympathy and having a bigger/better Perspective, who came to mind? Do you have a friend or family member who seems to nail this every time?  

(You know the invitation I am extending to you, right?) Reach out and tell them that you've noticed how they are able to sympathize with others and how they tend to take time to get a different perspective --how they seem to be OPEN to a different perspective... tell them how they are an example you are trying to follow!

And, lastly, this week as we talked about the Golden Rule, Going First, and Grace --for ourselves and for everyone (yes --EVERYONE!) else*... who lives that out in your life? 

Who is bold and brave and takes risks in Going First and in Doing Unto Others and in shelling out Grace like it will never run out (Hint: It won't.  It won't ever run out --at least not while we are still here on earth, in such need of it!)

Don't hesitate to:
Speak Life... Be Love... & Shine On!

WHO in your life could use a bit of encouragement... 

Who is in need of the reminder that it matters? That who they are and how they are following Jesus and trying to live and love like Him... 

It's Changing the World
and it matters?


We used to do this thing in the Five Minute Friday community called #fmfpartysnailmail... this post reminded me of how we used to write cards or letters to our tribe, simply to send a word of encouragement, a prayer, a verse... because, who doesn't love to get fun mail? And who among us doesn't need to know that what we do... what we are writing or pouring out over coffee or how we are intentionally living our lives by being kind and choosing the high road and giving the benefit of the doubt... by biting our tongue or swallowing our pride or going first... it matters!  It really does! 

I truly believe we are changing the world, one small act of kindness at a time!

I hope you will catch the vision here... not only to practice Becoming Queen of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt but also in sending notes of encouragement to whoever the Lord puts on your heart! 

And then join me right here over the weekend for a short Sabbath post and on Sunday, a prayer!

Today is Day Nineteen of  31 Days of Becoming Queen of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt! If you click over to the official 'Homepage' for this series HERE, you can catch up! You will find links for each days' postings, added daily throughout the month. If you'd prefer to have them delivered right to you, I invite you to enter your email address to the right ('Subscribe Here') and subscribe to the blog. That way, once a week, each post is delivered to your inbox in a single email over the weekend and you'll be sure not to miss a thing!

* = This is when my time ran out! Thanks for grace as I finished my thought!

Linking up with Kate Motaung and the #fmfparty Community today.  Five Minute Fridays give us the chance to dive right in and share what He puts on our hearts! Click HERE to read what others have to say about "WHO"
The FMF lowdown: The gathering happens on Twitter on Thursday nights & then we write our hearts out & hit publish all over the interwebs on Thursday & Friday (& sometimes on Tuesdays!) It's where we encourage & uplift... where we share prayer requests & praise reports... where we talk food & friends & we find support & kindred hearts. It's where we are reminded that life is good & God is good & we're not alone... & then we all write for five minutes flat, a flash mob of wordsmiths letting our hearts & our fingers do the talking tapping & we hit publish before we can second-guess it all away. We'd love to have you join us!

I'm also linking up with the lovely writer community linked below:

Crystal Twaddell for #FreshMarketFriday

Mary Geisen for #TellHisStory

Kelly Balarie for #RaRaLinkUp

Lori Schumaker for #MomentsofHope

Holley Gerth for #LetsHaveCoffee


  1. Wow! You really got me thinking about how bad I have been about staying in touch and encouraging others. Thanks! I will send one note of encouragement today at the very least. Great post!
    FMF #4 this week.

    1. It's so hard because with all of our 'modern technology' it's easy to feel connected without really being as intentional as we used to be! I'm so glad your plan is to send a note or two! Thanks so much for stopping by!

  2. For me, the King of Kindness is Survivour the Rottweiler, an enormous chap of unfailing good cheer.

    #1 at FMF this week.


    1. Aw... Love this! I remember decades ago now when I went to interview for a job and the owner used Rottweilers as his security around the office and property. After the interview was done (which I thought went well but i wasn't sure) he told me to stand behind what would be my desk and hold very still. As soon as I got to the desk, he let FIVE of the biggest dogs I had ever seen in and they surrounded me and my desk, sniffing all over and getting my scent. After they meandered away, he offered me the job... I was so scared of those dogs but, turns out, they were giant teddy bears unless you were a stranger! ;)

      Praying for you and Barbara, friend!

  3. You are a who. And, I send you prayers and encouragement today!

    1. I see what you did there... and I felt those prayers and encouragement! xoxo

  4. I always think of a precious lady at church. Mrs. Lana

    1. Aw... I have a precious Lana, too! I love this! I hope, if it's possible, you will let your Lana know this!

  5. I have to say that I think of my precious husband, Rodney, who continually encourages me to write. I love the way you incorporated honoring into your 'who' post. Way to go!

    1. Thanks so much, Karen! I have a husband who is a Who, too! ;)

  6. Encouraging post, keeps me thinking about how we must be every day. Sometimes we forget about it. Great post! So glad to read again here and get encouragement for my heart as well.

    1. It's so true, Tayrina! We know so much Truth and yet somehow, we tend to forget it so often! So glad you stopped by and found some encouragement here! You are welcome back anytime!

  7. I love this idea friend! So awesome! Love!!

    1. Thanks! You are very good at doing this! I know because I have a stack of cards from you myself!


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