October 5, 2018

DAY FIVE of 31 Days of Becoming Queen... SHARE: a Five Minute Friday post.

This is a Five Minute Friday post, which simply means I set a timer and free write for five minutes flat on the one word prompt of SHARE.


So far this week, we have talked about how this series came to be (read: reluctantly!),  Being Kind, Believing the Best, and Focusing on the Positives... 

All of these things are powerful in and of themselves but put them together and we are well on our way to Becoming Queens of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt!

These Five Minute Friday posts are always fun because I never know how (or if, really!) the One Word Prompt will fit with the series topic!

But I see "Share" and immediately I see Community!

As I have mentioned here over the last several months, we are in this really strange season of Being In Between. We are in between jobs - literally, with zero employment right now - and we are in between churches or community. 

We have been very quiet... small... still.

We feel a bit like we are floating, and yet we are tethered to each other and we are tethered to Him and His Peace is saturating our everyday life with so much grace that if we have even a small temptation to rush on to the next thing... (or ---to 'make' the next thing happen!) we quickly let go again!

It's like a free falling and while it is very much just us two, we know so many others share in a similar season!

God graciously gathers community around us and knits our hearts together so even while we feel set apart, we have kindred hearts with whom we can share what it is (whatever it is!) that He is teaching us in and through this time.

We are made for community... 
made for connection!

We hunger for it...

Listen, sweet readers... 
  We need each other! 

Loneliness isolates and opens wide the door to the enemy to whisper-shout lies that feel true!  

It doesn't matter if you have been hurt by a friend, by church, by circumstances or politics, by co-workers, or family... (read: of COURSE it matters... but that is all of us, at one time or another -or seventy times seven!- that doesn't give us the right to shut people out or cut them off.)*

When we withhold giving the benefit of the doubt and being willing to listen (and hear!), we withhold forgiveness and an opportunity to learn!

In the end, we may not change our minds... or their mind... but if we have been willing to be kind, to believe the best, to focus on the positive, to ask questions and actually hear their responses, to try to understand where they are coming from or why they did or said what they did... we all have the chance to grow!

We are called to be part of a Family that is eternal... to share in the Kingdom together, forever!  We need to learn to get along!

Is this world a hot mess? Yeah... Heaven on Earth is not fully here yet. But we are called to release and pull it down and become Heaven on earth to those around us!


This is where my five minutes were up --and it is also where I wanted to insert that I am NOT saying to ignore or not put into place Healthy Boundaries... I am NOT saying to be a doormat or to continue to put yourself at risk... I'm not talking about abusive situations. 

I AM talking about NOT cutting people off or shutting them out simply because they believe differently than you do... or vote differently... or live differently.

I was talking with a sweet friend this afternoon... a long overdue date to simply curl up on my couch and chat for hours about all the things. It was so wonderful partly because we are kindred and we agree on most things... but partly because the things we disagree on are still talked about, with Honor and Respect! 
(Hey, do you remember those guys? I miss them so!)

This is the fruit of
Becoming Queens of Giving
the Benefit of the Doubt:
We can love each other
and learn from each other!
We can create Safe Space to talk
and ask questions and
share from our hearts... 
We feel Heard and Held,
and who among us
doesn't want that?

On the weekends, we take it easier... 
Come back tomorrow for a super short visual post that is meant to help breathe a bit of Sabbath into your Saturday, and then on Sunday --we will gather here and pray!

Today is Day Five of  31 Days of Becoming Queen of Giving the Benefit of the Doubt! If you click over to the official 'Homepage' for this series HERE, you can catch up! You will find links for each days' postings, added daily throughout the month. If you'd prefer to have them delivered right to you, I invite you to enter your email address to the right ('Subscribe Here') and subscribe to the blog. That way, once a week, each post is delivered to your inbox in a single email over the weekend and you'll be sure not to miss a thing!

Linking up with Kate Motaung and the #fmfparty Community today.  Five Minute Fridays give us the chance to dive right in and share what He puts on our hearts! Click HERE to read what others have to say about "SHARE"
The FMF lowdown: The gathering happens on Twitter on Thursday nights & then we write our hearts out & hit publish all over the interwebs on Thursday & Friday (& sometimes on Tuesdays!) It's where we encourage & uplift... where we share prayer requests & praise reports... where we talk food & friends & we find support & kindred hearts. It's where we are reminded that life is good & God is good & we're not alone... & then we all write for five minutes flat, a flash mob of wordsmiths letting our hearts & our fingers do the talking tapping & we hit publish before we can second-guess it all away. We'd love to have you join us!

I'm also linking up with the lovely writer community linked below:

Crystal Twaddell for #FreshMarketFriday

Mary Geisen for #TellHisStory

Kelly Balarie for #RaRaLinkUp

Lori Schumaker for #MomentsofHope

Holley Gerth for #LetsHaveCoffee

P.S. My Girlie and I have a new(ish) Podcast called "Changing Our Minds" and we'd love to have you join us as we talk about anything and everything.  It's like sitting with us at a table as we chat over a cup of coffee! We'd love to have you subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and Like our Page on Facebook! We have 7 episodes so far, and we release new episodes about twice a month! Click HERE for more information. It's also available on Spotify and Stitcher, as well as right here on the blog under the Podcast tab!


  1. noemploymentatall? K.....?

    1. LOL! Well... there was a part time job but that is gone... handy man work here and there but no open doors for whatever is next yet! But God... He's somehow providing and and saturating us with Peace!

  2. I agree with every word you wrote!
    In my 31 days series, (Scattering Kindness), I wrote a post on Playing Nicely on Social Media. It will probably go live on Oct 9. Would it be okay of I linked to your post?

    1. Oh, I would be honored, Susan! (And I am reading along with your series, too!) xoxo

  3. the thought that came to my mind after reading this is "the only way we can be a community and support one another is through an open mind (and heart). I don't know if that is accurate or not. But, thank you for this.

    Your FMF neighbor.

    1. Thanks so much, Lee Ann! Yes... it seems to be necessary - this living open handed, open minded, and with an open heart! Again -- Jesus is our ultimate example, right? Thanks for stopping by and joining on the journey!

  4. Love you my friend! You are such a gift. I'm thankful for the community God has brought into my life. And when we are kind, resurrection can and does happen! xoxo

  5. Very encouraging words! Thank you!!

    1. Thank you, Tammy! I so appreciate the feedback! Thanks for joining us on the journey this month!

  6. Bless you for hunkering down for 31 days straight, Karrilee! My hat's off to you ...

    And oh, yes please to community in all its lovely shapes and forms. That's where God blesses us richly, in the company of others.

    1. Amen! And thank you for stopping by, Linda!

  7. Praying for you guys, Karillee.


    1. And I am praying for you guys! xoxo

  8. Beautiful Karilee! We need to shout this from the rooftops!!! Thank you for sharing your encouragement with us! Cindy

    1. Cindy, thank you for stopping by and joining the journey with me! Yes... we are all in desperate need of hearing (and remembering and putting into practice) this truth!!!

  9. Visiting from #MomentsOfHope Linkup today. I hope you find employment and a church home soon. But in the meantime, enjoy.

  10. Oh, my sweet friend! That's a lot to be sitting in the middle of. Praying for God to continue to fill you with peace while He provides ♥ Thanks for joining me. You are a gift! And guess what ... You are my winner for the book bundle giveaway! I'll email to get your mailing address ♥


    1. Thanks so much, Lori! For all the things and all the thoughts and prayers! God is good... (and yay me!)


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